How single are you?

How often  do we hear women complaining about the fact that they are unable to meet Mr.  Right ,  how they have reached a certain age and yet they are alone. For those who have a partner, he doesn't seem like he will ever propose. In addition our parents are pressuring us about grandchildren. It's a very difficult position to be in, especially when you know you have all the prerequisites to be the One. It's frustrating!

It's a real challenge hence, so many depression cases among woman. With all that being said, how single can a  single be? I'm sure you're probably asking, what is she talking about. Well bare in mind that, although many people are single, they are still sexually active by one way or the other. 
A few weeks ago I was chatting with a friend about that subject, she was complaining how  she has not dated anyone for the past nine month. She is beautiful, educated and independent yet not One guy has asked her out. As we were discussing, she got a text message from a male friend. as she read the message she looked up at me and started to smile. Of course I was curious, she then said "girl it's on" I'm gonna say it raw; it was a booty call. Don't get me wrong, I was genuinely happy that she was gonna have some fun, but the point I'm making is that a couple of days later she was hurt. She has gone back to the guy's place and he was too busy with another woman to even answer his door, and had told her afterward like it was the most normal thing on earth. 

I know that for most men having sex is, let's say just like using the restroom. However, it's very different for a woman. We unknowingly put our soul into it, although we might not consider it, a for a woman it's always more that frivolous act its more than just a sexual encounter! 
Unfortunately, when we keep having those intimate relationship with people whether male, female or whatever your sexual orientation might be, we build an involuntary connection with someone who in reality, wants nothing to do with us. At that point both male and female become very lazy, they don't really want to put the effort it takes to have a real date and by doing so we automatically make ourselves unavailable for real relationships. 

Why going out when we have that friend who can hook us up right? Yet we cry of disappointment more often than we want to admit it. ​

​Imagine accidently getting pregnant or God forbid contracting a STD through someone who had no ties with you and who doesn't care about anything else but enjoying your goods.  I am not saying those words because I want to prove that you're living your life the wrong way. I'm doing it because emotionally, it does more damages then good to us and at the end of the of the day I think a woman has more to win being really single than being someone else's adult toy. A lot of women do it because they hope that if he decides to have a relationship it will be with them, well, how is it working for you so far?

I can't help but notice how all of over the internet when, especially young women see pictures or videos of Ciara and Russell Wilson, the question they always ask is; "sis tell us what kind of prayer you did to have him?" First of all, I don't believe they had that "Netflix and chill" kind of relationship going on prior to dating.

I strongly believe that we deserve all the best, but I don't think respect will be handed to us on a gold platter unless we behave in such manner. 
You are a wonderful creature and yes, we're worth it!
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